JUDGING- GOOD/BAD?

Hi guys! I'm back with another blogpost because i haven't done one in quite awhile. I decided to touch on this topic because I think that i need to explain this CLEARLY to

everyone out there. This is just my opinion on the topic, maybe some

of you can relate to my way of thinking and maybe some of you disagree, but i'm just going to share my feelings about JUDGING.

First things first, judging others is INEVITABLE- Certain to happen; unavoidable.

It is just how our society is and we just have to accept it. Yes, people say don't judge others when you don't know them but frankly, we all judge each other by the way we look, dress, live our way of life. Judging isn't always bad, it can be good as well. But I think that judging someone's looks is okay but judging BY LOOKS is NOT OKAY.

I know that phrase seems confusing but this is what i mean:

Let's say I see this guy, he isn't the most handsome guy and I think that he isn't that good looking. THIS JUDGING IS OK BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN OPINION ON THINGS. Some guys like thin girls, some guys like fat girls, some girls like chubby guys, some girls like buff guys, people like/love different things/people.

HOWEVER, it's when you judge BY LOOKS. Like you see this girl walking past you or you came across her profile page and she is super pretty, barbie like, lots of makeup, super thin and you just come up with your opinion that she's a slut, whore, bad bitch. THAT IS NOT OKAY. because you just judged her personality based on her looks. That is VERY UNFAIR because you have no right to say that about her. she could be wearing tons of makeup because she feels insecure and it's the only way she feels like she can walk out of the house with her head up high. Maybe she's thin because people used to call her fat and she became obsessive with dieting. You don't know her background and you just assume that she's some kind of slut, whore or bitch? Now THAT IS A TOTALLY UNFAIR JUDGEMENT.

People go by the saying; don't judge me if you're not perfect yourself. Well you see, we all aren't perfect. we all have our flaws. we all don't like our flaws being pointed out so we take it as an offense that someone has "judged" us. I have accepted my flaws and i don't see how people can't accept them too? like they have flaws as well. so accept me for who i am and i will do the same. But just cause of my flaws, doesn't mean i'm a bad person, it doesn't mean i'm a slut. IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING. 

This is honestly true, i am OKAY with people calling me ugly/not super pretty/decent only. I am not aiming to be the prettiest girl, i obviously would GLADLY BE but i'm not. If people think i'm not good looking then so be it, but don't say i'm a bad person cause of my looks. Don't judge my personality based on my looks. I have a reason for everything I do. There would DEFINITELY be a pool of people who would disagree to my lifestyle but everyone has their opinions and choices so why can't i have mine? 

A lot of people try to back themselves up saying; only god can judge us etc. It's true. I am a christian so i believe that but I'm telling you in our society, EVERYONE JUDGES. Boys go down the street and judge the girls they see or the other boys they see. Girls go down the street judging other people. It's a normal reaction to look at someone and form your own opinion about them but DO NOT LABEL THEM AS A BAD PERSON JUST CAUSE OF HOW THEY LOOK. 

It's really common and i see this all the time, not only to myself but to other girls as well that the word slut is used a lot and it's quite unfair to say that. Just cause some girls dress a certain way, maybe with a little skin showing and maybe they dare to show a cleavage but they are just flaunting what they have, that doesn't mean they are sleeping around with boys and wasting their life. Maybe they are comfortable with that dressing and maybe you're not. Like i said before, everyone has different opinions and that's why people start to judge.

Yes i admit, i judge people but i never EVER judge someone and say oh she's a slut because she looks like one/ he's a loser just cause he looks like a nerd/ he's buff so he must be some douche bag. I have my own opinion whom i think is good looking or not good looking. Personally i don't see a problem with that. it's like how people say justin bieber is so ugly, but i think he's hot. or miley cyrus is some slut cause she dresses like one, but i think that she's just experimenting and growing up plus she has the means to act that way and she just wants to have fun.

Maybe after reading this, some of you would agree with me and maybe some of you don't. OH well just wanted to share my view on this topic because it's pretty ridiculous on how people make such a big issue on this. if someone calls you ugly, just flip your hair and be bold and beautiful. You only need yourself to feel that way. once you feel that way, and your heart is beautiful, others will see it too and then you will truly be the most beautiful. WE ARE ALL BORN WITH DIFFERENT FACES AND DIFFERENT FEATURES. Accept them and just look your best. Be YOUR best.

That's all i have to say for now so thanks for reading and GOOD LUCK! xx

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SKINCARE

hey someone asked me to do a "how to get rid of pimples" blogpost. But I will just generalize it on skincare routines and at the bottom I'll probably let you guys know some products I use to help with my skin!

I don't know if I'm actually the right person to ask because I'm really not flawless and not that an expert on skincare.

But as usual I'm going to just try my best in answering the question and hopefully I have provided some

useful tips or advice to you guys! As usual I'll add in the products I use and recommend, and those that I've used but didn't seem to work out! So let's just get started!

Firstly I think that you must have some basic skincare routine such as cleansing at least twice a day and probably do some extra face masks and exfoliation throughout the week. 

I didn't really bother about my skin that much until I realised how important it really was. I think that most of my money actually is spent on skincare products, besides clothes.

For me, I don't really mind spending a lot of money if it's on a product that is definitely going to help my skin so if you feel like you're really on a budget, I'll try recommending some of the drugstore products I've used before but I don't think they work as well as the other brands I have used.

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1. Cleansing

This step is super important and even if you don't wear makeup, when you walk around and be exposed to the air and the minute dust that you can't see, all the impurities and sweat actually somehow get stuck in your pores and sometimes this causes blackheads. Whiteheads are the most common pimples everyone usually has and it's probably because of the natural oil our face produces. Everyone has a different skin type (oily, combination or dry) so when you buy products, please know your skin type first! *Just to let you guys know, I have combination skin*

So let's say you're like me, I wear makeup when I go out. Make sure you have a GOOD MAKEUP REMOVER. THIS IS SUPER IMPORTANT. If you don't remove makeup properly, it can lead to some of the products getting stuck in your pores and definitely remove it before you sleep, do not sleep with makeup because you're not letting your skin breathe. It also clogs up your pores while you're sleeping. After removing the makeup, I like to be double sure everything is wiped off so I use my cleanser after removing my makeup. This is called a DOUBLE CLEANSE. Don't cleanse your face too often either! I think that twice a day is just enough! 

Okay so you guys probably would want to know what cleanser i use so these are the ones i have used before and the one I'm currently using right now:

<----the one I'm currently using

2. Exfoliate 

This is something that some people say is optional but I find it very necessary for me because I think that it helps to get rid of my dead skin cells and it helps to remove impurities better and some of my blackheads. It's true that you shouldn't exfoliate so often so I would say maybe once a week is enough for exfoliation, any more than that could lead to dry or irritation of the skin! By exfoliating, you are removing those dead skin cells from the top layer, revealing the smoother skin below and it makes your makeup goes on much smoother as well. If you know your skin is sensitive, then do look for products which has fruit derived enzymes in them such as pumpkin or papaya. 

So these are the ones which I have used before! The lush one is the one I'm currently using and I am definitely a LUSHIE!

3. Moisturize 

Again this is another step where people tell me I don't actually have to do because I'm still young and don't really need to do it but I still do think it's quite important because my skin does get dry easily. I usually moisturize before I put on my makeup and also before I sleep. It keeps the oils in your skin regulated! If you're someone with normal skin then you'd probably have to only do it before you sleep. But if you're someone with oily or dry skin, I think that moisturizing is an essential step. I know some people with oily skin thinks that moisturizing is not necessary for them because their face is so oily already but in actual fact, it IS STILL NECESSARY. Your skin will sense the drop in essential oils that the face needs to keep hydrated, thus creating excess oil to replenish the essential oils which obviously leads to excess oil on the face. Hence, moisturizing would prevent that from happening! Personally I don't really like using a cream based, I prefer a gel based moisturizer so this is my ultimate favourite and the only one I've been using ever since! But like i said before, everyone's skin type is different so you need to buy one that is suited for YOU.

4. Face masks

It is recommended to use face masks at least once a week. It helps to hydrate your skin, moisturize it and ease skin irritation! Face masks can be either smoothing or energizing to the skin but it's definitely a stress reliever! All masks should be applied to a freshly cleaned face, rinsed with warm water. When it is time to rinse the mask, do so in cold water. This will help close the pores, protecting them against oil and dirt, and also energize your face. Many people like to make their own face masks at home, you can always go to youtube to search for tutorials for your type of skin but nowadays I don't really have the time to make masks anymore so I just buy them! I only use lush masks because they are all natural ingredients and I find that my skin prefers that instead of the chemicals used in other masks!

I think that these few steps will already minimize the formation of more pimples! But for the sake of those who already have acne problems or a lot of pimples, I will recommend more products! PLEASE DO NOTE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACNE AND PIMPLES.

1. SCARS

Okay so you know we have blemishes or acne scarring so there isn't a way to remove it overnight unless you go lazer it off but there is something that will slowly help reduce it if you keep applying it everyday. That is VITAMIN E cream. THIS THINGS IS MAGIC TO ME. I used to have a huge scar on my knee and it was one huge circle because I fell down. After applying the vitamin e cream, it has totally disappeared! I forgot how many months it took to disappear but the fact that is gone really amazes me, I use it for the scars I got on my face. It's definitely something I would recommend to everybody!!

this is the one i used:

2. WHITEHEAD PROBLEMS

You know sometimes we get whiteheads but they aren't fully ready to pop yet, it's just like a hopeless bump and you feel like getting rid of it. Well people say to "dry" the pimple out. This is a product that i use, it's quite pricy and it's available in sephora! PLEASE READ THE BOTTLE CAREFULLY OR RESEARCH ON HOW TO USE IT BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY USE IT CAUSE MY SISTER USED TO SHAKE THE BOTTLE BEFORE USING IT WHEN IT CLEARLY STATED NOT TO SHAKE -__-

So here's the product: 

That's all I have for now, as usual if i have anything to add on I will definitely update my blog! Hope some of you guys found this useful!! 

GOOD LUCK! xx

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Popular fashion trends of 2013

     Hey guys! I'm back with a fashion blog for all for you as more than one person has requested me to do a blog about fashion. Hence, 

I have decided to do one about the recent trends this year! Hope you find this useful

 and can use this as a guideline to help you out in your own fashion style! Let's just get into it then! :)

1. Peplum keeps on appearing on dresses, blazers, tops, skirts and what they do is to make your outfit look more feminine. It also will accentuate your waist as it hides your hips! It makes your waist look tiny since that's where it squeezes you the tightest. If you wear it with skinny jeans, it should make you look slim and toned all over! Here's some examples: 

2. Oriental Prints seems to always be in trend! Wear these prints on the bottom (skirts/shorts)! A full print top could be overwhelming so if you do wear it, pair it with a something that is solid red, black or white for a pop of colour! Here's some examples: 

3. Unexpected Cutouts are such a sexy trend. Cutouts can be found on the chest, stomach, hips or the back. It's really for those who don't mind showing a little skin, still looking sexy and classy. It's even appearing in swimsuits as well!

Here's some examples:

4. Crop Tops and Bralets were in trend last year and became a super-hot trend ever since! It's definitely something that you should pair with a high waisted short/skirt/jeans or a maxi skirt!

Check them out! I think it's so cute!

5. Same pattern for tops and bottoms! You think it may look weird at first but I think it's actually really cool and pretty! See it for yourself!

6. Another recent trend is definitely wearing overalls! It hasn't been in fashion for awhile but it has came back this year with a huge blow! You can see people wearing it all the time! It's for a casual simple outfit! Definitely something cute!

7. Numbered shirts are also very in! They give a very casual and not too sporty look! They can be found as normal t-shirts or even crop tops! You can pair them with almost everything!!

8. Hologram accessories and clothing is something that gives a little shine and colour to one's outfit! It's definitely on the wild side and it will definitely catch another person's eye! 

9. Lace if you want a feminine, delicate and more romantic look this summer, then the lace is great for you.

10. Transparency is very in! Transparent dresses; skirts, blouses, tops, coats, capes, and even parts of footwear and bags are characteristic elements of the spring/ summer 2013 fashion.

There you go that's all the ones that i can think of right now! If I ever think of more I would definitely update this blogpost again! Hope you guys found this interesting and useful! It was really fun for me to do some research, flipping through magazines to search for the trends this year! I'm pretty sure there are many more but these are the ones I have noticed!

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How to get a flat stomach?

How to get a flat stomach?

A lot of people have been asking why am I so thin and what do I do to be so skinny. Most people think that to be skinny is to go on a diet and to starve yourself but actually you don't really have to do that. It is unhealthy to go on diets at such a young age. Exercising does play a part in keeping your body in shape. 

Today, I have 7 advices to share with you guys, just some things that I do on my own to have a FLAT STOMACH. If you're already thin like me, this will help get you a flat stomach but if you're a bit chubbier than me and you do this, this might not make you as thin as I am. These are just ways for a flat stomach.

1. To drink water before and after every meal.

I'm sure a lot of you have heard that water is good for your skin and health. It hydrates you and cleanses toxins from you. But by drinking water before and after meals, it fills your stomach up and when you eat the right food which combines with water, it makes you feel full so that you don't start gobbling down unhealthy snacks after meals. This is like compacting your stomach and making you eat lesser, in such a way where you have your normal meals but you will not still feel hungry after.

2. To do abs exercises 

This is what I do at the gym mostly, other than a few weights and being on the treadmill. Abs exercises such as sit ups. This is to build your stomach muscle and a structured core. I'm not talking about doing just like 50 situps, you probably have to do 200-300 a day. It is possible if you do it throughout the day and not all at once. So you can do it in the morning then maybe in the afternoon when you watch tv and before you sleep :)

3. Not eating 3-4 hours before bedtime

This advice is one that I do not follow super often because I always get hungry and crave for supper. But for those of you who can, try to. I don't have a bedtime but you guys should sleep early! For me, if I am sleeping at 12 midnight, I don't eat after 8pm. Let me explain. If you eat before bed, your body will turn that food into fats WHILE you're sleeping. Yes, when you're sleeping you are burning calories, just not as fast as exercising. So, if you do not have food in your stomach before bed, your body will not try to store excess fat thus, you will not be gaining weight. 

4. Avoid Sugars, Wheats and Whites

why? because they give you fats. Not the good kind of fats but the fats that you do not want excess of. If we do not exercise after eating these things, they will cause insulin resistant which are the ones that help us store fats. Sugars cause loading, they will gain water so there is loading up in our intestines. Sugar molecules will like attach itself to water molecules and make your stomach look more bloated up, because the weight of the molecule is heavier. 

5. To eat meals that are the size of a battle fist

I know it's a small portion but this will make sense in awhile. Most of you think that I don't eat a lot during meals but what you don't know is that I eat more than 3 meals a day. By eating a small portion every hour of the day or something, this causes our stomach not to expand more. This is because our stomach IS the size of a battle fist and when we eat more than that, it make our stomach expand and contract. This creates the bulge we see on our stomach even for some of you who ARE THIN. By not making our stomach expand so much, we will result in a flatter stomach!

6. Try to have a liquid diet?

I don't mean to just drink all your meals by blending it up. But maybe you can start by stop eating your fries and burgers, but have soups and smoothies. Try avoiding sugars so like maybe you can try blending your juices. I don't really like vegetables. Face it, i hate it.  What I do is actually make blend some vegetable and apples together and just drink it. By having sort of a liquid diet, there won't be a bulge in your intestines and they can absorb the foods easier and quicker. This makes your stomach flatter and you won't feel bloated. 

7. Eat the right food

Most of us, especially when we go out with friends, we usually go ahead and eat fast foods, frozen yogurts, ice creams the cheapest foods we can find so our money can be spent on other things like shopping :p But that is REALLY BAD. You can eat those once in awhile but not too often. If you get hungry try and turn to fruits for snacks instead of your chips, chocolates etc. 

Hope this was helpful to you guys. I have tried this out and this is what I do everyday of my life. I hope it works out for people who are going to try this. It takes commitment and you can't just do this on and off. 

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Manage Your Time, Don't Let It Manage You

Everyone's been asking me like how do I 

maintain being so active online and able to study/do well in school. Well it's really all because of effective time management. it's really up to you on what you feel like doing today or tomorrow. Having good time management skills is about the ability to control your life. As a teenager, a lot of procrastination happens, the feeling of laziness kicks in and giving up is sometimes our first option to escape from work/stress. Those are the easy way out of things in the short term but not for the long run.

So I kind of came up with a few ways to help you guys, 

some of them which have helped me so let's just get into it!

1. SOCIAL NETWORKING

Most of us definitely are on the computer or on our phones most of the time. We can never seem to keep our eyes off the screens of our devices and we have this constant need to upload and update. But you have to remember, don't let it control you, you control it. I know some parents take their children's phones away and lock it up until they finish studying or like they take their computer away and confiscate all electronic devices but my parents have never done that. My mother always believed that I should learn how to control my usage on the internet by myself, she didn't have the time to reprimand me or bother to take my phone/laptop away. she just said that if she doesn't see good results on my report book, that's my problem in the future. I always seem to find myself taking out my phone every minute of the day and each time i come home from school, I run to my room and open my laptop. That sounds a bit scary yea like I'm addicted or smth but I've learnt to control that. 

When i tell myself i need to study, i make sure i do. it took me awhile to get used to it because usually after an hour i would feel the need to check my phone so I tried several ways to prevent this. Keeping or locking my phone away from my sight didn't seem to work because I always feel insecure without my phone right next to me. So, I turn off all notifications on my phone so that it doesn't ring that includes whatsapp, twitter, instagram etc. I would place my phone right infront of me so i know that it's there and no one else has it. it just doesn't ring, so i don't feel the need to check my phone. 

Try studying for one solid hour first and build it up slowly, so far, i can sit down four hours straight of solid studying. I think that it doesn't matter how much time you put into studying but the concentration and the focus that you have while studying! 

2. AVOID OVERLOAD

Probably after reading this or even maybe not reading this, you feel like the urge to study cause something motivated you. well, you don't want to lose the motivation right? SO DO NOT OVERLOAD. That means, start out on small and simple. Don't suddenly just throw yourself into a book full of extremely hard problem sums or things that will demoralize you. Before being fast and efficient, you need to be slow and steady. Studying is like a race. You don't start at your maximum speed, you only do that at the end. Take short 10minutes break after every 1/2hours. Don't leave everything to the last minute. AVOID "eh I can do this later". Do tasks that have earlier deadlines first. These are just the basic guidelines in not wasting time.

3. LAZY DAYS

Have you ever woken up and you just feel like shit? Like you don't even want to get out of bed, you don't want to walk, you don't feel like moving a single bit. We all have those days but solving this problem is a bit difficult because I can't help you, you have to help yourself. Look at your parents, do they stop working just cause they feel tired or lazy? if they do there wouldn't be a house for you to live in, there wouldn't be food on the table, you wouldn't have an education to give you that higher opportunity to be successful in life. Stand up, splash water over yourself, make yourself a nice snack, sit down properly (not on your sofa, not on your bed) on a chair, open your book and start revising. On these lazy days i suggest you not to do any written work. You could just like open your textbook and start copying notes, trying to memorize some things, small and easy tasks that doesn't require your brain to use so much energy so at least you did something productive than nothing at all.

4. HAVE A GOAL

Before, i didn't believe having goal had to be necessary. I felt like i could never think of a goal and it was too time consuming to come up with one. But the fact is, my brain already had a goal in mind from the very beginning and I think it's the only thing that motivates me. I remember in sec 1, being in the worst class, we got looked down upon. I was infamous at the time so not only was I ugly but I was stupid too, that's what i felt. My dad used to tell me that others can't say anything to someone who is smarter than them. I didn't believe it but I'm starting to right now. I worked hard, I moved up a few classes so I would be in a better environment for myself. I didn't want to be known as that girl who is just like every other blogger. I didn't want to be sterotyped into the "pretty, bimbo bitch". So whenever I study, i tell myself that I don't want to give people that reason to say I'm stupid or not smart and all i care about is my looks, fashion and hair or smth. I work hard for myself to be a better person, giving people one less reason to make me feel bad about myself. So that's my story, so what's yours? Create your goal, be who you want to be, be who you want people to see you as.

STUDY TIPS?

-make your own notes; it'll be easier to memorize in your own writing and words

-revise every day what the teacher has taught you; it will become a good habit just like how you wake up in the morning and brush your teeth. Every day you brush your teeth so it's like a daily routine and it gets stuck in your head better

-revise a subject every week

-make sure you have everything prepared before sitting down to study; don't get up half way to take food or drinks or anything else. Make sure it's already in your reach so that you don't waste time.

-file everything neatly; so that it'll be easier to find your things and it doesn't require you to waste time in finding notes that you may have lost or anything.

-try to have individual files for each of your subjects

DO NOT WASTE A SINGLE MINUTE ON THINGS THAT DO NOT NEED TO BE DONE.

Don't waste time on people that don't appreciate you, don't waste time on irrelevant things, don't waste time thinking on stuff that will distract you away from yourself. Don't get involved in things that will make you feel moody cause that will just make you not feel like studying even more. If you want to go out, plan to go out before hand so that you know you're not going to study on that day and you have to allocate another time to study.

That's all I have so far and if i can think of anymore things to write I will definitely update this.

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Q&A VIDEO

Hi guys! I've decided that I'll make a Q&A video on youtube!

So from today if you want to ask me a question and want me to reply it on video, sumbit them here!

http://freeonlinesurveys.com/s.asp?sid=3aqdsvbxec8ejp1248780

I'm looking forward to seeing some exciting and awesome questions!

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Bullying

Hello again :)

We'll I'm back with like a follow up on my haters blog post because someone asked me to do one with a bit more detail and I think that sometimes sharing experiences with each other actually helps someone else who is going through the same thing as you did.

Firstly, I would like to state a fact that everyone gets bullied. Whether you're an unknown or the most popular person in the world. Take this as an example: If you're the most popular girl in the whole school, there are bound to be people who are unconsciously/consciously jealous of you, or people who hate the fact that you're popular cause they don't think you deserve to be, those who are irrtated/annoyed, there are bound to be people calling you a slut, whore, bitch, mean etc etc but that's just because not everyone is going to have the same views as you do and different views just results in conflict.

Okay, take it the other way around. You're a loner, no friends, no one even notices you at all, no one wants to partner with you, you are always alone. There are bound to be people who may or may not say it in front of you that you're a loser, no one likes you, no one wants to be near you etc etc

SO NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE.

I THINK THAT EVERYONE FACES THIS BULLYING/HATING PROBLEM at least once in their life.

We all experience bullying at some point in our lives. Well now, because of technology, bullies are able to use modern communication methods like phones, social networking sites to target victims. This is the most common type of bullying, cyberbullying, which I believe is because with the internet, you can be anyone you want to be, there is a barrier between the bully and victim. This makes bullies feel more secure that they won't get in trouble or like they feel less guilt? Being an anon also makes bullies think that their tracks are covered, they won't get caught and it will make the victim seem like even strangers are hating on them, which makes them feel much worse. Actually if you believe it or not, 1 in 4 students get bullied in every classroom. Every classroom there will be a divider of cliques and everyone just usually sticks with their friends but I actually find that quite saddening. Because what if your clique decides they don't want you, then who do you have left to go to? We are all so separated in our small groups that once we are out of the group, we feel lost and insecure. That is why I feel like teachers and schools always try to have this need for class bonding sessions or events to help bring the class together. But all my school life, I never ever see that actually work. :(

Victims of bullying usually suffer from depression, whether the depression is just thoughts or if it's at it's extreme where self harm is involved, it's still depression and I believe that no one should go through that or even have the thought of escaping life by suicide.

RANDOM FACT: Bullies have 1in 4 chances of facing criminal chargees by the age of 30--- studies shown by the uk

If you or a friend is being bullied, you should really go tell someone. No that doesn't mean you run around the whole school trying to find a schoolmate or a friend to tell. I mean like really tell someone. And I frankly think that the best people to tell to is your parents. You parents don't have to storm down to the school and embarrass you and try to protect you. But just let them know that you'd like their support and hope that you aren't going through this alone. I get that parents can be such a nuisance sometimes but they are the ones that will never leave your side. They are your blood and families stick together, I don't think your parents would betray you or anything like that. I know some people have problems in confiding with your parents. I admit that I had the same problem when I got bullied. I thought I could handle things myself and I didn't want to tell my parents as I thought it was embarrassing to tell them. But after my parents found out I was very down every day, things were different and they found me crying a lot at home, they started to ask me why and I explained to them what's been happening. My parents are really harsh with what they said back HAHA but their words are true and logical.

My mum said "Kylie, why are you so stupid for crying and bothering about these shitty people. They are useless in your life. Crying about this is not going to change anything. You know something to cry about is like if our family goes bankrupt or someone in our family died. Stop giving us your sad and black face every day. We give you so many privileges, only for you to come home, cry and not talk to us."

That kind of sank into my head. At first I thought my mum was being very harsh and mean because she didn't ask me if I was okay or did I get hurt and she didn't comfort or hug me at all. But her words soon came to make sense to me. Like why am I wasting tears and time over people who don't have to be part of my life. My parents give me everything and I come home everyday looking depressed. It just makes them feel like they aren't being good parents when they actually are. But that took me a long time to figure that out! HAHA

The bullying actually started with people calling me skinny, anorexic, bulimic, ugly, loser, fuck face, dumb etc. Which I thought were all true at first, but then I realised, I wasn't anorexic or bulimic. I was skinny because of my metabolism rate. I was born with this face and I don't want to do anything to it because I don't want to look the same as someone else. I don't want plastic surgery to have the same eyes or cheekbones as someone. If this was what god gave me, then it shall be what I deal with and receive happily. I always tell myself, thank god I'm human and not some alien species living on planet jupiter or something that cannot experience the amazing life, technology, scenery and wonders of living on earth. No matter how cliche "Life is beautiful" sounds, it's actually true. It just depends on how you look at it. 

As I grew older, I got bullied by girls AND boys. Boys made me feel more insecure than girls. They would call me ugly, worthless and all the words like slut, bitch, whore came into the picture and that really upset me because I knew I wasn't a slut, whore or a bitch. And during this process, I guess I developed some defensive mechanism where if someone insulted me, I would do the same things back. That's probably why I was called a bitch. I am not proud of what I have done but it's something I have to live with and deal with cause whatever's done been done. SO I WOULD STRONGLY SUGGEST people not to do what I did. It worked for me but it's not really a method you would want to try because more people who didn't even hate you or like you (neutral) would begin to hate you because you become some mean person, you become the bully. AND THAT IS SMTH WE DO NOT WANT.

WHY?

BECAUSE WE ARE TRYING TO STOP BULLYING. 

I literally thought people would go after me and really bully me but until now they really never did. People purposely got me in trouble when I didn't do anything, so I had to deal with that. Everything that made me smile or happy was lame and the bullies would just try to ruin it for me. I think that most bullies bully because of insecurity. THEY ARE INSECURE OF THEMSELVES. Because if you know who you are and you are very sure and confident that you are strong and better than another person, why would you waste ur time telling others that they suck, they are losers, they are low people, worthless? You won't have the need to insult others just to make yourself look good or feel good. My school is with a lot of rich families, people who live in town with the expensive houses and etc. I do carry branded bags because I share them with my mum or like my mum gets them for me because she thinks I'm performing well in school and that's kind of how she wants to reward me. But I get comments saying like all the bags are fake, I am fake, I am "POOR AS HELL" and other nasty comments. 

I'm sure I'm not the worst one who got bullied. There are many many other people who get bullied physically and mentally every day with no one to care for them until they turn to suicide. So to those who are bullied, I would like to say to stop pitying yourself and do something about it because that's the only way to stop the hurt. Ignore the haters and the bullies. Just stay out of their way, don't purposely run into them. If you argue back with them, that's kind of giving them what they want. Unless you push the right buttons and hurt them back... but that's not the point because we are trying to STOP BULLYING. SO IGNORE ALL OF THEM. SHUT THEM OUT. THEY DO NOT NEED TO BE PART OF YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE. I know it's upsetting but when you grow older, it's not a big deal. You're going to look back laughing at why you put yourself through depression, why you cried for them, why you bothered caring what they thought of you. 

 I think the best ways is to find something for you to escape the hurt. NOT SUICIDE OR SELF HARM. I don't wish to see anymore teens cutting themselves or killing themselves. I have people telling me and spamming me nasty comments every day, some even includes killing myself. But don't look at those comments, close the window and delete them all. You will feel better once you don't have the mean comments visually in front of you. Music was my escape really, I started writing songs and usually when I'm happy, upset or angry, I listen to music and calm myself down. Even crying while listening to music really helps because finally something can relate to me. 

I know these are all just a bunch of words to some people but I truly understand how people who are bullied feel like. I think that it's very hard to be happy with yourself because we are so young and still trying to figure out who we are so when someone comes in and say we are ugly, horrible, disgusting, ew, a lot of us would take that to heart and feel hurt.

You aren't alone in this world, everyone is going through the same thing as you. You just have to go through this phase in your life and if you learn how to deal with it, you'd be a better person! So start smiling and raise that head up high and be proud of who you are. Don't change yourself for just a few people out of the millions out there. Stay true to yourself and just let the loved ones come in to your life.

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